Category Archives: Sunday Wisdom

If selected

If you ever listen to sports people with a humble disposition, they’ll often qualify a preview of a forthcoming contest with the words, “if selected”.

Not everyone can be picked on the team. There are only so many spots. So, all dreams are contingent on being selected.

But you and I don’t have that dilemma. We can select ourselves. We can stand up, and enter the arena.

We can choose our own path, we can pick our sport, we can change our team. The full expression of who we are requires us to select ourselves.

It might feel more comfortable to hide and tell yourself that the rules of the game mean you have first to be selected to play.

Do you want to be the person who looks back and says, “I coulda been somebody, if selected”?

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On giving up

“Never Give Up” was the slogan of the week in the football world recently.

It turns out, though, that giving up is often a wise strategy.

Sometimes we realise that we should have given up sooner. Think of dysfunctional projects that dragged on too long, jobs that didn’t fit, toxic relationships, habits that suited a younger version of ourselves (the list is longer than you think) – for all of these we clung on a bit too tight. Shoulda given up.

Here’s the twist: never give up on yourself.

By all means, let go of activities and beliefs and involvements that are past their ‘Best Before’ date, but never give up on the project that is you.

You deserve your own backing. You deserve the best chance you can give yourself. You deserve your own compassion when it might be in short supply elsewhere.

When it comes to being the best version of you, never, ever give up.

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This post was adapted from one of Aodan’s Sunday morning newsletters, eagerly anticipated by hundreds of readers. Give yourself the gift of that weekly wisdom by signing up here.